Barnstable Patriot, November 18, 1965
CENTFRVILLE
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MRS. WILLIAM E. BELPO.V Tel. 775-9039
IIOPKINS-MELLO WEDDING Miss Lauren Hopkins, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. William Thielman of Orleans, nnd Robert R. Mello, son of Mr. and Mrs. Frank R. Mello, Bumps River Road, Centerville. were united In marriage at an 11 a.m., double ring ceremony Oct. 30 at Our Lady of Victory Church with the Rev. Joseph K Welsh officiating. Given in marriage by her father, the bride appeared in a white velveteen gown with long sleeves and a bell shaped skirt. An elbow length veil was attached to a crown adorned With sequins and pearls and he carried a cascade bouquet of white roses and ivy. Miss Jane: Hopkins of Orleans. --crved as maid of honor for her sister and wore a street length.. of royal blue velveteen and a matching headpiece with veil attached and carried a cascade bouquet of carnations tipped hi blue and mixed with ivy Fran'.c. R. Mello. Jr. of Warren. N.H., served as his brother's best man, while Paul Medeiros of Hyannis and Robert Aittaniemi of West Barnstable served as ;: . Bouquets of white chrysanthemums adorned the altar for the wedding ceremony and bouquets of assorted flowers decorated lhe Mello home on Bumps River Road where the wedding reception was held. The couple traveled to New Hampshire for their honeymoon and at present are residing on Bumps River Road, here. The bride is a 1964 graduate of Barnstable High School and is employed at Sears Roebuck Store in Orleans. Mr. Mello. a 1960 graduate of Barnstable High, is a plumber by trade, employed by Brewster Plumbing and Heating Co , Orleans
THE VILLAGERS The monthly gathering of the Villagers held in the parish hall of South Congregational Church was attended by 90 members and guests. Mrs. Roscoe H. Goddard and Mrs. Raymond M. Burnham, co-chairmen of the host and hostess committee in charge of the covered dish luncheon, were assisted by Mrs. David Abrahamson. Mr. and Mrs. William Parker, Mr. and Mrs. Eugene Bickford. Mr. and Mrs. Edgar Vernon, Mr. and Mrs. William Ellsworth and Mrs. John Ryan. -Mr. and Mrs. Bert Sickles, Mr. and Mrs. Les Carroll and Miss.Alice Olive were welcomed as new members and Mrs. James Gillis as a guest. A moment of silence was observed in memory of Dr. James F. Colgan.. Mrs. Emerson Moseley, program chairman, introduced Sherman Woodward of South Dennis who spoke on and displayed articles from his Driftwood Zoo. Explaining that practically everything shown was found on the beach, he also said he made few changes in the shapes of pieces. In some cases he had added sea moss, parts of sea animals and fish to complete articles nnd background material for the finished works of art in figures, fantasy and pictures. Also shown were the heads of "Cap'n Nickerson" and "Aunt Betsy" fashioned from coconuts. A former chef, Mr, Padua, is to be featured at the pre-Christmas gathering of the Villagers early in December.
ROOKIE 4-H CLUB The Kookie 4-H Club mostly composed of new members is the only 4-H croup in operation in Center-\ [lie this year. The girls meet Thursday afternoons at the longfellow Drive home of their leader Mrs Gerald Hurd with Mrs. Linwood Ricker as assistant. Both sew-Ing and cooking projects are included in this year's program. Officers recently elected are Kathy Hurd, president: Kathleen Childs. vice-president: Sharon Childs, treasurer and Lynn Ricker. secretary The club attended the annual 4-H Recognition Banquet held in Memorial Hal! of Hyannis Federated Church Nov. 13 and received an engraved cup for third place for last year. Three awards are given by the trustees to the clubs outstanding in completing yearly projects, keeping records up to date and the like. Members of the last year's group include Kathy Hurd. Christine Ricker. Susan Chase, Robin Renzi, Marquerite Robbins and Marjorie Lane. Robin Renzl also received a dress revue medal for last year's achievements.
CONGRATULATIONS To — Mr. and Mrs. Leonard Galvin of Craigville Road, West Hyannis Port who are parents of a daughter born Nov. 7 at Cape Cod Hospital. Mrs. Galvin is the former Dolores Lobo. To — P.F.C. Mary A. Baxter of the Women's Army Corps who received a promotion Nov. 8 to Specialist 4C while stationed with the U.S.A. Stratcom Facilities at Pirmasens, Germany. The daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Baxter of Conners Road, Wequaquet Heights. Mary has acquired a new nickname and because of her initials MA is called Ma Baxter by friends and acquaintances there. In a recent parade at the Facilities, Specialist Baxter proudly served as color bearer. To — Louis Jacobucci of Benzer Lane, Centerville, MSPCC district executive, who was a featured speaker at New York State Welfare Conference held this week at Statlcr-Hilton in Buffalo, N.Y. — under the theme Social Reform: An Old Challenge — A New Commitment.
Amalia's Story, Chapter Sixty-Two
= Amalia Angeloni Jacobucci
1000 Characters About My Mother #15:
"What happened after the Cub Scout Banquet?"
"That would have been in March of 1965 . . . "
"Here's something! First published April 1965 -- "
"Louis Jacobucci, Casework Treatment of the Neglectful Mother."
"Families in Society: The Journal of Contemporary Social Services, Volume 46, Issue 4."
"Oh, look! They had references!"
“The Protective Service Caseworker: How Does He Survive Job Pressures?”
“Use of Homemaker Service in Families That Neglect Their Children."
“The Team Approach in Protective Service.”
"Character Disorders in Parents of Delinquents."
"There's more."
"That's OK."
Presently . . .
"Loneliness and Isolation in Child Neglect."
"Dispositional Empathy in Neglectful Mothers and Mothers at High Risk for Child Physical Abuse."
"The Training of Neglectful and Unsatisfactory Mothers."
"The Socialization of Emotional Understanding: A Comparison of Neglectful and Nonneglectful Mothers and Their Children."
"In ...
"What?!"
"I didn't say anything."
"How can you say such a thing?"
"I'm not going through this again."
"What do you mean?"
"All this -- denial. I'm done. I'm just going to say exactly what happened as I remember it."
"It never happened!"
"The reason I know it happened is that I renember it. I was eight years old. My brother was twelve years old. I was able to recover the date because I remember at some point in the week preceding the event, our father for some reason had told us, I'm going to be speaking at the Unitarian Church this Sunday at 11:00. It did not seem weird to me at the time, because he was always out of the house anyway. Plus all he used to when he was home was harangue me, so good."
"You lie."
"In fact, I remember thinking, it made sense that he would get something going on Sundays, because that was the only time he was ever even around anymore. Weekdays he was working, of course, and weeknights he was always at one of his many, many important community activities."
"You are delusional."
"Then, I found this article, and it all ...
"I have a thesis. My thesis is: In any woman's life, having children would have to be the most significant event. So, in my mother's story -- "
"Her family wasn't really any different from any of the other families."
"Yes."
"In what way?"
"She and her husband were both very active in community affairs. Both her children went to school."
"What else?"
"They were both boys?"
"Anything else?"
"No. That's it."
"So you said, that one way in which your mother's family wasn't really any different from any of the other families, was that she and her husband were both very active in community affairs. Can you tell me a little more about that?"
"Oh, sure. There was always something going on. Cub Scouts, she was like Den Mother of her older son's Cub Scout Pack. Pack 54. Plus the Comedy Club. Plus I'm pretty sure, she was involved in the kindergarten. She and her husband both. And politics. It was the Sixties."
"Just normal 60's Mom stuff."
"In any case, it's time to forget the past."
