"Maybe I should get a life,"
Rite of passage
Cape Cod Times, Sept 7, 2004
https://www.capecodtimes.com/story/news/2004/09/07/rite-passage/50930969007/
FREDERICK MELO, STAFF WRITER
Annual Labor Day exodus proves calm
DENNIS - It was a sad sight at the Holiday Hill Miniature Golf course last night, where the last few holdouts of summer refused to admit their vacations were ending.
"We ate at a restaurant where we usually have to wait for a half-hour to an hour-and-a-half," said George Fliegelman, a retired paper wholesaler from Coventry, Conn., as his wife, granddaughter and her husband silently calculated strategy on the putting green.
"And tonight, we walked in and sat down. It's kind of sad to see a bit of a change, isn't it?"
The Labor Day holiday, observed on the first Monday in September, dates back more than 100 years and is meant to honor the social and economic achievements of American workers, according to the U.S. Department of Labor.
On Cape Cod, however, the day has traditionally signaled the departure of thousands of tourists - the lifeblood of the Cape economy.
Following a lackluster summer marked by poor motel occupancy, a decline in automobile travel to Martha's Vineyard and Nantucket, and relatively quiet cash registers, perhaps it should be of little surprise that even the Labor Day rush was more of a polite skitter.
Schoolchildren often see the holiday as the end of summer vacation - even though autumn doesn't officially arrive until Sept. 22.
But some residents and visitors suggested that Cape roads may also have been quieter, because many Bay State schools have already resumed classes.
"It's better than usual," said state Trooper Kris Bohnenberger, who reported a half-mile backup approaching the Sagamore Bridge at 8:45 last night.
In comparison, traffic backed up 35 miles from the Sagamore Bridge to the Orleans Rotary on Labor Day 1996, because Hurricane Edouard was approaching.
"I'm sad that the crowd is gone," said Carl Rosenberg, a retired Newton typesetter.
Now, Rosenberg splits his time between his winter getaway in Florida, his condo in Yarmouth, and Holiday Hill Miniature Golf, where he passes out putters.
"It's nice working in an environment like this," he said, already missing the pitter-patter of kids on the green.
The Cape's more than 220,000 year-round residents do, however, keep many other businesses open for 12 months, and the autumn "shoulder" season has become a popular time for many vacationers.
But some longtime residents still remember the days when most of the peninsula shuttered its doors in the off-season, bringing freedom from traffic and tourists.
"It sort of brings an end to the season," said Amalia Jacobucci, 78, of Centerville, who has been waving goodbye to drivers on Route 6 from the Route 149 overpass in West Barnstable every Labor Day since she moved to Cape Cod in 1961.
The tradition is intended to "wave the people away - I mean wave to them as they go," said Jacobucci, correcting herself with a chuckle.
"Sometimes they put up kind of nasty signs," Jacobucci said.
"'Goodbye, glad to see you're going.' Not horrible signs, but not nice signs. ... We're glad to see you go, in other words. I guess at the end of the summer, it's true."
She's seen attendance at the wave-a-thons rise and fall, and this year, it was downright pathetic, she said.
With few fellow well-wishers to urge traffic westward over the bridges, Jacobucci only stuck around 20 minutes.
"Maybe I should get a life," she joked.
(Published: September 7, 2004)
Amalia's Story, Chapter Sixty-Two
= Amalia Angeloni Jacobucci
1000 Characters About My Mother #15:
"What happened after the Cub Scout Banquet?"
"That would have been in March of 1965 . . . "
"Here's something! First published April 1965 -- "
"Louis Jacobucci, Casework Treatment of the Neglectful Mother."
"Families in Society: The Journal of Contemporary Social Services, Volume 46, Issue 4."
"Oh, look! They had references!"
“The Protective Service Caseworker: How Does He Survive Job Pressures?”
“Use of Homemaker Service in Families That Neglect Their Children."
“The Team Approach in Protective Service.”
"Character Disorders in Parents of Delinquents."
"There's more."
"That's OK."
Presently . . .
"Loneliness and Isolation in Child Neglect."
"Dispositional Empathy in Neglectful Mothers and Mothers at High Risk for Child Physical Abuse."
"The Training of Neglectful and Unsatisfactory Mothers."
"The Socialization of Emotional Understanding: A Comparison of Neglectful and Nonneglectful Mothers and Their Children."
"In ...
"What?!"
"I didn't say anything."
"How can you say such a thing?"
"I'm not going through this again."
"What do you mean?"
"All this -- denial. I'm done. I'm just going to say exactly what happened as I remember it."
"It never happened!"
"The reason I know it happened is that I renember it. I was eight years old. My brother was twelve years old. I was able to recover the date because I remember at some point in the week preceding the event, our father for some reason had told us, I'm going to be speaking at the Unitarian Church this Sunday at 11:00. It did not seem weird to me at the time, because he was always out of the house anyway. Plus all he used to when he was home was harangue me, so good."
"You lie."
"In fact, I remember thinking, it made sense that he would get something going on Sundays, because that was the only time he was ever even around anymore. Weekdays he was working, of course, and weeknights he was always at one of his many, many important community activities."
"You are delusional."
"Then, I found this article, and it all ...
"I have a thesis. My thesis is: In any woman's life, having children would have to be the most significant event. So, in my mother's story -- "
"Her family wasn't really any different from any of the other families."
"Yes."
"In what way?"
"She and her husband were both very active in community affairs. Both her children went to school."
"What else?"
"They were both boys?"
"Anything else?"
"No. That's it."
"So you said, that one way in which your mother's family wasn't really any different from any of the other families, was that she and her husband were both very active in community affairs. Can you tell me a little more about that?"
"Oh, sure. There was always something going on. Cub Scouts, she was like Den Mother of her older son's Cub Scout Pack. Pack 54. Plus the Comedy Club. Plus I'm pretty sure, she was involved in the kindergarten. She and her husband both. And politics. It was the Sixties."
"Just normal 60's Mom stuff."
"In any case, it's time to forget the past."